Call me strange but I love criticism I can’t get enough of it.
Criticism is the most potent method of encouragement I can ever receive.
I take all criticism as constructive, it’s all pointers and tips on how to better yourself.
If it’s not constructive, then it’s not criticism. Nonconstructive criticism is just meaningless blather, empty words, useless hot air…….. until its not.
What I do with criticism is simple. I take the time to listen to the meaning and the context to determine if it’s relevant to my situation. I use what’s helpful and discard the rest.
The vast majority of the time constructive criticism falls into three categories.
#1 Intended to help and useful,even if it hurts. > my response>>> Great thanks!
#2 Intended to help and not useful.> my response>> (appreciate the attempt) ignore and move on.
#3 intended to help and directly harmful.> my response>> “Oh how cute.” ignore, move on and prove them wrong.
In the rare instance that criticism isn’t intended to help if falls under the other three categories.
#1 Empty and meaningless.> my response>> laugh and ignore. (or poke fun)
#2 Empty and hurtful> my response. > “if ignorance is bliss who am I to deprive you of yours?”
#3 (very rare) Something intentionally designed to hurt.> my response>>
(if failed hit hard and make their stupidity memorable) (If success,they are subjects for experimentation.)
In all cases the way I determine my response is simple. I extend the same courtesy to them as they do to me.
Its brutally fair and practical,and it doesn’t leave any room for tolerance of unacceptable behavior.
I do not tolerate allowing myself to be hurt by the words of others, and I do not waste time in telling people when they hurt me. Simply existing is NOT a crime and downright refuse to apologize for it.
In modern society people are so scared to step on any toes,that they lay down and become the floor so that other people can walk on them instead.
Words can only hurt you if you believe them to be true. Watch who it is that is criticizing and laugh at how they attempt to project their own insecurities on you. When you do that their words have little to no impact on your daily life.
Until next time —— Seeker.
